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Posted by tarastoyland on May 22, 2015 at 2:00 PM Comments comments (0)

My Philosophy - Potty training

 

I fully believe in early training.  Since I do home daycare I have trained LOTS of kids, more then the

 

Duggars,  so I have developed some opinions on the matter.  I try to start as soon as the child is able to

 

sit  solidly.   At first I just have them sit often at set times, like when they wake, before or after we go

 

outside,  after lunch, after nap.  The parent can sit them upon waking in the morning, before dinner and

 

before bed.

 

Since I often run into people saying you have to wait till the child is ready I have researched this. I have

 

found that lots of people ignore signs of readiness that happen between 14 and 18 months old thinking

 

no child could possibly be ready that young. So the window is missed and the child gets in the habit of

 

using their diaper and being " lazy".  Signs of readiness are not asking to go with words, a non verbal

 

child can train successfully, but rather indication of a need and desire to sit on the potty.  This may

 

include pulling at diaper area, leading you to the bathroom, taking off diaper, or visibly showing you

 

they are uncomfortable after voiding.  

 

In potty training you must remember that sleep dryness is different then awake dryness. There is a

 

chemical that makes your body not pee or poop while you are sleeping. Some children do not get this

 

chemical in their body until they are as old as 8 years old. So do not push sleeping dryness or expect it.

 

Use a pull up/diaper until they are dry for a while.

 

I did some research and found that "stool toileting refusal" has been linked to late training (Taubman

 

1997). "Of the 19 participating children who trained by 24 months, none refused to poop in the toilet.

 

Only 4 of the 90 kids who finished training between 24 and 30 months were “refusers.” The vast

 

majority of refusers (101) came from the remaining 373 kids who finished training after 30 months."

 

Some children have more solid bowel movements then others that may require avoiding binding foods

 

(breads, cheeses, bananas, rice, apples in any form) in order to prevent a problem arising.

To read more about studies on this subject see future blog posts!

Potty Training Articles (NOT mine)

Posted by tarastoyland on May 20, 2015 at 2:05 PM Comments comments (0)

Early Potty Training Key to Success

 

John K. Rosemond

 

What's it going to take for American parents to realize that just as it's far easier to house train a 4-

 

month-old puppy than a one-year-old dog, it's far easier to toilet train a 20-month-old child than a 3-

 

year-old?

 

Fifty-four years ago, according to a study conducted at the time by Harvard University, nearly 90 percent

 

of America's children had been successfully trained before they reached their second birthday. Today,

 

courtesy of several decades of toilet-babble issuing primarily from pediatrician/author T. Berry

 

Brazelton, parents wrongly think training a child under age two is psychologically harmful, if not

 

impossible.

 

So, they wait. And they wait. And they wait. They're waiting, they tell me, for their children to show

 

some of Brazelton's "readiness signs," which he snatched out of the thinnest of air to make it appear

 

that his "child-centered" (a euphemism for upside-down) recommendations were based on solid

 

science.

 

As a consequence of this waiting for the Godot of potties, children become ever more accustomed to

 

and oblivious of letting go in their diapers.   When their parents finally make the attempt to entice them

 

to use the potty, all manner of resistance develops, including a problem that was rare fifty-plus years

 

ago but is ubiquitous today: refusing to use the toilet for bowel movements.

 

Several weeks ago, a mother asked me for advice concerning her 4-year-old who was "absolutely

 

refusing to poop in the potty." The child's resistance had been ongoing for some time and was

 

associated with late training. Mom was obviously ready to pack it in and run away from home, so I went

 

into my top-secret phone booth, changed into my Parentman costume, and gave Mom a set of

 

instructions that have proved helpful to lots of other parents in the same fix:

 

Stop talking to your son about using the potty. Don't even ask "Do you want to try and poop in the potty

 

today?" or other equally counterproductive questions.

 

Get rid of the diapers, pull-ups, and all associated things and resolve to never use them again.

 

Every day, right after your son eats a high fiber breakfast, gate him in the bathroom, naked from the

 

waist down, and tell him his doctor said he has to stay there until he poops in the potty.

 

Don't stay in the bathroom with him. Don't offer incentives, or even encouragements. After putting him

 

in the bathroom, make yourself scarce. Simply tell your son to call you when he poops or if he needs

 

help.

 

Respond "coolly" to success, as if it's no big deal. Say no more than "That's good, you can come out

 

now." Do not give a reward or even lots of praise.

 

Gate him in the bathroom every day until he's having regular bowel movements in the potty.

 

A week later, Mom wrote, "We have success." When she introduced the plan, the little guy cried and

 

generally acted like he was being traumatized, but Mom stayed the course.

 

"You will poop in the potty," she told him, and he did; and he has been ever since.

 

Lesson: The mistake of late training is correctable, and my experience is that, as in this case, the

 

correction usually takes less than a couple of weeks. But the wear and tear in the meantime!

 

Copyright 2009, John K. Rosemond

 

*About the Author: Rosemond has written nine best-selling parenting books and is one of America's

 

busiest and most popular speakers, known for his sound advice, humor and easy, relaxed, engaging

 

style. In the past few years, John has appeared on numerous national television programs including

 

20/20, Good Morning America, The View, Bill Maher's Politically Incorrect, Public Eye, The Today Show,

 

CNN, and CBS Later Today.

 

Click here to visit Rosemond's Web site, www.rosemond.com

 

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Toilet Training Success Stories

 

John K. Rosemond

 

I've said many, many times that letting a child older than 30 months soil and wet herself several times a

 

day is an insult to the child's intelligence. Actually, I absolutely know, and historical evidence confirms,

 

that it is easier to train a child at 20 months than it is to wait much past the child's second birthday.  (Ask

 

yourself: Is it easier to house-train a 6-month-old puppy or a one-year-old dog?) As the age at which

 

toilet-training begins has increased (by nearly a year in the last 50 years), so have toilet-training

 

problems. In the mid-1950s, researchers at Harvard determined that nearly 90 percent of 24-month-olds

 

in the USA had been successfully trained. That so many of today's 3-year-olds are still in diapers and

 

"pull-ups" can only mean that today's kids aren't half as smart as kids were in my generation (and our

 

parents never claimed we were gifted!). I am cheered, however, to learn that there are still intelligent

 

children in the world, as evidenced by the following story:

 

The mother of a 27-month-old reads a magazine article about "readiness signs" and noting that her son

 

displays none of them, decides to toilet train him. Yes, you read that right. She correctly ascertained that

 

the writer of said article was simply engaging in "parenting correctness." Mom promptly announced to

 

her son that they had no more diapers; therefore, he would have to use a potty from then on. They

 

went out together and bought a potty and big-boy underwear.

 

She writes, "I didn't hover, nor did I ask or remind him to use the potty. I was training him, not me. I was

 

prepared for plenty of accidents, and figured each one would be a lesson in cause and effect. When he

 

wet, I said something like 'Gosh! That looks uncomfortable. Let's get you changed.' I didn't force him to

 

clean up by himself, or scold him. I just responded matter-of-factly. He got stickers to put on the potty

 

and some mild praise each time he was successful, but not a party."

 

Three days later, the child was accident-free. His mother thought she'd been lucky, but has since had the

 

same experience with two subsequent children, none of whom have, she admits, "gifted and talented

 

bladders."

 

Her third child, a girl, insisted upon using the potty at 18 months. Mom was a bit skeptical, but had

 

another accident-free child within three days. Several weeks later, the parents decided to have her use

 

the big toilet. Since she couldn't get up on her own, Mom or Dad had to help. Eighteen months later, the

 

child was still demanding assistance, and the parents were still helping. Enough is enough, they decided.

 

Mom demonstrated how to attach the potty seat to the big toilet and mount it using a stepstool. Mom

 

then told the child that there would be no more help, even if she became hysterical. Mom also informed

 

her daughter that if she wet herself she would clean the mess up on her own. The little girl recently told

 

her teacher, who had offered to help her go potty, "My mommy says I have to do it all by myself, and I

 

ab-so-lute-ly can!"

 

There is no mystery to this success story. First, the mother began training before her kids got so used to

 

messing themselves that it was no big deal. Second, she conveyed clear expectations and equally clear

 

instructions. Third, she responded to mistakes with a calm, matter-of-fact attitude. Most importantly,

 

however, she approached toilet-training with no apprehension, as if it was the most natural thing in the

 

world -- which, in fact, it is.

 

Copyright 2008, John K. Rosemond

 

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http://faircompanies.com/blogs/view/whocides-when-to-potty-train-you-baby-or-big-diapers/ was the

 

following:  "One of the moms lured into the training philosophy of "don't force it... when he's ready it

 

will happen practically overnight" had emailed the group that she's now dealing with a "strong-minded

 

3-year-old who really seems to enjoy resisting the process". She sent along a link to an article as well as

 

her advice: "Start now, don't wait, even if he doesn't prefect the process until he's three or more. Set

 

the groundwork as early as possible."

 

I clicked on the link as quickly as I could and found the Mommy Files blogger Amy Graff explaining how

 

she had potty trained her 2-year-old son in 3 days. Using advice from potty training guru and ex-nurse

 

Julie Fellom, she explained, "Children are typically ready between 15 to 27 months. This is a great age

 

because toddlers are compliant but ready for some independence. If you wait longer, you'll be dealing

 

with a temperamental, strong-minded 2-year-old who will likely resist the process."

 

It was a book recommendation from one of the moms that finally clued me in to the disposable-diaper

 

industry's role in convincing American parents to wait and wait and wait (in their disposables) until their

 

kid was good and ready. Linda Sonna, author of "Early Start Potty Training" explains that the "child-

 

oriented approach" to training began in 1961 when Procter & Gamble started test-marketing the first

 

disposable diaper. "The company began looking for a pediatrician to promote them", she explains in her

 

book, "it signed up T. Berry Brazelton, who began extolling the merits of the company's product and

 

recommending that parents not begin potty training before children are physically, mentally, and

 

emotionally ready."

 

Even child-raising guru Dr. Benjamin Spock fell into line with the Pampers-pitching Brazelton. "Spock

 

used to say younger was better, 14 months was considered late for training," Sonna discovered while

 

researching for her book. "In 1961 everything changed and Spock began quoting Brazelton. That was the

 

year Brazelton signed up with Procter & Gamble. He came out saying it was cruel to train babies too

 

early."

 

With the power of P&G advertising budgets behind him, Hazelton's advice began to change the nation's

 

ideas about when a child was ready for the toilet. For one Pamper's ad, he extolled what has now

 

become a common concept among mothers: "Don't rush your toddler into toilet training or let anyone

 

else tell you it's time! It's got to be his choice!"